If you joined Sugurr as an Attractive member, you have probably noticed something within a day: attention is not the problem. Your inbox fills. The problem is what to do with it. Attention is cheap and conversations are expensive, and the members who do best are the ones who know how to convert one into the other, on their own terms.
Decide what you want before you reply to anyone
This sounds obvious and almost nobody does it. Write down, privately, what a good outcome looks like in three months. A relationship? A travel companion? Someone to have excellent dinners with while you build your business? All of these are legitimate on a luxury dating site. What matters is that you know, because it determines who you reply to, and it will show in how you write.
Your profile should filter, not just attract
A profile that only attracts brings everyone. A profile that filters brings the right ones. The difference is specificity. "I love travel" attracts everyone. "I take one proper trip a quarter and I am planning Kyoto next" attracts people who can join you and quietly repels people who cannot. Say what you do, what you are building, and what kind of person fits into that. Successful members read the last part carefully.
Reply to the message, not the profile
Here is the shift that changes everything. Most Attractive members sort by the sender's profile: job, photos, location. Try sorting by the message instead. A thoughtful, specific first message from a modest profile is a far better signal than a one-word opener from an impressive one. People who write well tend to date well. Reply to the ones who read your profile and said something about it.
Move to video early
Sugurr's built-in video chat is the best tool you have. A short call answers every question a text conversation cannot: are they who they say, is there any chemistry, do they listen. Suggest it after a handful of good messages. Members who are serious say yes. Members who are not tend to disappear, which saves you an evening.
Use the private gallery deliberately
Your public photos should be excellent and appropriate to be seen by anyone. Your private gallery is for the members you have decided to trust. Sharing it is a small gesture that says "I am taking this seriously," and it is far more meaningful when it is rare. Do not grant access to everyone who asks.
Get verified, all three ways
Attractive members sometimes skip verification because they assume the photos speak for themselves. They do not. Successful people are wary of being catfished, and a profile with ID, photo and phone verification badges removes that worry in a glance. Verified profiles get better messages from better members. It takes ten minutes.
Protect your time
You do not owe anyone a reply. A luxury dating site works best when you treat your attention as the valuable thing it is. Use the hide feature freely. Decline politely and move on. The members worth meeting will respect it, and the ones who do not have told you something useful.
Standing out, in one line
Be specific about your life, generous in conversation, and selective with your time. That combination is rare enough that it stands out on its own.
New here? Read what luxury dating means and then create your profile. It is free, and the first good conversation is closer than you think.